This newsletter explores the intersection of Mind, Money & Machine. I also write from personal experience. If you get something out of this, please share & subscribe:
The worst position to be in, is to have to make a change.
Making an adjustment means you're on right path and can see what is missing.
When you have to transform you've hit rock bottom.
You have two options there:
be open to shifting completely the way you show up and operate in the world.
‘die’
Having to make changes is what paralyses us.
You know stuff is not working.
You're stuck on a treadmill and most likely will stay stuck because of sunk cost bias, status quo bias and other ego-related issues.
Be alert when you hear the word change.
In your mind or in a meeting
Explore what is really meant.
And if it really is a matter of change?
For me what seems to work is; let it be.
Which is very right and very hard.
Because feeling like doing ‘nothing’ is easy to see not just as unacceptable but a personal failing.
And that leads shame.
Shame then leads to pain, which leads to self-sabotage.
And so we find ourselves back on the treadmill.
So?
If not let it be, let yourself feel the implications of the issue.
Don’t fight it.
Don’t amplify it.
Let the issue run on the treadmill.
Not you.
Be in wait, don’t be passive.
me
In the meantime keep moving forward in others areas of adjustment so that momentum creates new perspectives on and relationships with the change issue.
You’ll be surprised at how true “winning cures everything” is.
It might no longer be an issue that needs attention (and if others yell “cope”, let them).
Or it might have become super urgent.
Right now it is just too early to tell.
Now, all of this of course is a hard sell.
To self and to clients.
It is all quite woo-woo.
Yet we know that it is how it works.
Laundry piles up until you can’t ignore it or you accept the argument over it.
Taxes will be paid.
On time or late.
When we finally show up as a buyer not a try-er purchases are made.
In the end many of us are not be ready to do this.
In a (work)culture of doing and knowing the above is seen as weak.
So we’ll be on the treadmill and experience pain and self-loathing for some time more.
And that’s ok too.
As fortune cookie as it sounds nothing takes time, except the willingness to do it.